Tradition dictates that, in a heterosexual relationship, the man should pop the question to the woman. Quite apart from being an out dated and archaic convention, it is also demeaning and insulting to women in general to believe that all women expect or need a man down on one knee before she accepts marriage. So instead of waiting for your fella to grow a spine, flip the script and propose to him yourself. If their answer is less than satisfactory, stop wasting your time and move on.
Buy a Token
There is no need for the traditional ring, although some countries in Latin America do call on women to give men a ring at the same time as he proposes to her. If your partner does not wear rings or you know will feel uncomfortable or pressured by seeing a ring, buy some other token of your love instead. Get him something that he has been eyeing for some time and put that in a box instead of a ring. If you have no idea what to get, buy something that is symbolic. A decorative key, to symbolize that he is receiving the ‘key’ to your heart, is a cliché idea but one that works within the romantic setting.
Plan the Moment Carefully
Since a girl proposing to a guy is a revolutionary idea for most men anyway, you might want to think carefully about the setting. Do not go into any best bars Docklands; with so many people to witness it, he may feel embarrassed or –God forbid – emasculated. Instead of shattering the fragile male ego, find a place that is private and intimate enough that he will comfortable around you and will accept your proposal. If you know that your guy loves attention, position a hidden camera to record everything so that he can re-watch later and decide whether he wants to share it on social media or no.
It is an unusual situation anyway, so if you waver even for the slightest moment, your partner will assume that you are unsure about the proposal and immediately back away. So be confident about what you are doing. Practice the moment, out loud and in your head, enough times and in different ways to make you sure of yourself but not too wooden. Once you are done and he has accepted, you can start thinking of birthday function rooms hire. Till the job is done though, keep it tight.
Have a Plan for After
Naturally, you want the moment to turn out wonderful. But it may not. So be prepared for either situation. If he says yes, go out to dinner and dancing, or give him some… memories to remember. If he turns you down, have something to occupy you for the rest of the day too. If it is simply a case of “I don’t think it’s the right time,” then you can still go out and do what you meant to do. If it’s a flat out ‘no,’ then you know it is time to end things.